What are the Options for Couples Counselling?

Option 1: Marriage or Couples Counselling

Get started immediately to improve your relationship right from the word 'go'. It can be a huge relief to know you're getting the very best professional support. Because couples counselling is very practical, you can start making changes and seeing the difference in your everyday lives. Typically, this involves weekly sessions so you stay focused. There is no 'tie-in' period or upfront cost, just pay per session.

Option 2: The Eight-week 'Transform Your Relationship' Programme

Some couples prefer to commit to this eight-week, evidence-based programme to transform their relationship. It combines a structured programme with therapy. Taking the very best from clinical research to support your relationship goals, your therapist will be there at all times to help you with specific relationship issues.

Follow the carefully curated content, guidance and advice, and your relationship will likely blossom into something way beyond expectations of what you both thought possible.

Content of programme:

Assessing your situation. Understand your relationship's strengths and weaknesses. Create optimal, healthy behaviours to transform your life together.
Knowing your relationship triggers. How to transform stressful situations into loving ones.
Being heard and understanding each other's needs.
Learn the skills of deep empathy for a lifetime of relationship success.
Appreciating your partner's unique talents. Appreciation is both an art and a skill. Mobilise a range of techniques to fulfil your potential together.
Healing deep relationship wounds permanently. This is a special technique stop you going around in circles. Learn how to do this and high tension and distress in your relationship will evaporate.
Expert conflict resolution and mindful communication. Learn the skills to ensure you don't slide back into old patterns.
High trust and intimacy. Transform the physical side of your relationship. Learn to recognise how what goes in the bedroom is a reflection of everything else going on in your relationship.
Never look back. Unlock your true potential together and make the positive changes permanent, honouring each other's life goals in the process. Your life together will never be the same again - in the most positive way possible!

Benefits of the Eight-week Programme for Couples

For couples looking for a more structured approach to couples therapy, there are clear benefits to doing the eight-week programme for relationship transformation.

Make positive new habits stick

According to the neuroscience, to form new habits and get them to ‘stick’ you need eight weeks of consistent effort. Healthier habits in relationships are no exception. In theory, it’s possible to understand what needs to change a stubborn pattern much sooner than that. That knowledge, however, needs to translate into action.

As always, the ‘proof of the pudding is in the eating’. In other words, positive new habits need to be enacted consistently for a sustained period to establish a new norm. Through having regular sessions, the natural accountability of couples therapy will ensure those new habits get traction.

New skills for change

Focusing on the key relationship areas that make a real difference is important. The course takes you through the six main areas for healthy change. In each session, you’ll have time to learn and assimilate new skills, which will immediately be put into practice. The programme breaks everything down into manageable chunks - in other words, the ‘nuts and bolts’ of healthy relationships.

With these new conflict resolving skills, which just aren’t taught anywhere else, you’ll be able to break through anything that’s been holding you back in your relationship.

There are strong reasons to be optimistic. Couples have broken through years of stalemate with the exact same tools put into practice (even where there’s a feeling of despair and it all feels futile).

Enhanced learning

If you need a recap or want to check your understanding, you’ll have the handouts to reinforce the session learning. They’re yours to keep and will stop any ‘backsliding’ if you follow the research-based guidance. Couples often say they post some of the visuals on their fridge doors - and why not?

Achieve your relationship goals

Couples progress through the course and remove the long standing barriers to their happiness. They end up loving each other more, having better sex, and achieving their goals. They often make important life style changes and prioritise their relationship.

This can have a far reaching impact in other areas of their lives, such as in their careers. It often surprises people how rapidly progress is made on the career or business front when life at home is much more harmonious.

Family life can become much easier at home too. It makes a huge different to children when they see their parents happy. It rubs off. In this way, you’re directly contributing to their wellbeing too.

All the benefits of regular couples therapy

The programme enhances rather than replaces couples therapy. Couples on the programme still do therapy, but this therapy is framed by the

Assured success with proven techniques

You’re opening up the door to relationship success if you complete the programme. Yes, there’s a requirement to put some effort in, but the rewards are well worth it. After all, you may well have been ‘trying’ for years, just with the wrong set of tools.

It’s a huge relief to learn what actually works in relationships based on the scientific research. There are so many misconceptions and distortions about relationships perpetuated by the media. Writers tend to be overly pessimistic when they write click-bait articles about relationships. More often than not, they have no specialist knowledge in psychology or couples therapy. This isn’t helpful and the ‘advice’ isn’t always to be trusted.

Instead, follow a programme that is underpinned by the relevant research and proven techniques. You’re only eight weeks away from a much more fulfilling relationship, one built to stand the test of time.

Find out more about working with Chris Langer, Couples Counsellor