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Does Marriage Counselling Work?

Yes! The Journal of Marital & Family Therapy states that 70 per cent of couples experience a positive impact from marriage counselling. Other research says that figure may even be as high as 90 per cent if you choose an experienced marriage counsellor who specialises in this field. So, choose the right marriage counsellor and the odds are stacked in your favour. With the right support, you can be confident things will change for the better.


For the best rates of success, choose an experienced fully qualified couples therapist or counsellor.  Find out more about Chris Langer, expert marriage and couples counsellor


When a relationship is in distress, it may feel like nothing will work. Many couples enter into marriage counselling as a last resort because they feel like they are at the end of the tether. But the good news is that expert relationship support is often the critical factor in turning things around. It’s not just a quick fix either.


Professional marriage counselling will get to the heart of the issues, then help you both make positive, lasting changes. In fact, if you both put in a concerted effort to improve under specialist guidance, there’s a strong possibility that you’ll end up being better than ever before. Marriage counselling works - if you're interested in reading what couples say about the results, read some of the reviews and testimonials.

How couples counselling works


These four areas highlight how marriage and couples counselling works to make a positive difference:


1. Emotional regulation. If you’re constantly arguing your positions or simply not talking much at all, it’s very unlikely you are regulating your emotions. Emotional regulation needs to be learned and practiced. Marriage counselling will show you how to achieve this.


2. Learning new psychological skills. If you haven’t ever leaned the right skills or been given the right tools, how can you expect good results? There is a proven way of learning to express your true feelings and voice underlying needs. Most arguments can be resolved within 20 minutes if you know how.


3. Communicating more effectively and authentically. When asked to describe what’s wrong, partners often say ‘communication’. But it’s not just about what is being communicated, but how it’s being communicated too. Communication in a psychologically safe space and being able to express one’s true feelings is the key to improvement. You’ll learn this in marriage counselling and transfer it into your everyday conversations.


4. Developing new habits. Unhealthily habits develop over time. But they can be replaced by much healthier ones. A skilled marriage counsellor will ensure you reach your goals in this area. By helping you weed out the unproductive behaviours, you’ll create the space for much more compassionate behaviours that help you achieve your life goals together.

Six key areas in couples counselling

Some of the most important areas worked on in marriage and couples counselling are listed below:

Identifying patterns

Emotional regulation

Building a stronger friendship

Communicating effectively

Creating intimacy

Realising your relationship's potential

Improving the chances of success

Sometimes couples ask what to expect and the attitudes that help most whilst doing couples therapy. You may find the following articles useful in this respect:

7 Golden Rules for Getting the Best Results in Couples Therapy

What to Expect from Your First Couples Session

Or you may find the answers to some of the questions you may have on the Frequently Asked Questions Page.

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